I recently wrote about finding more purpose in life and part of this will require you to embrace who you really are.
What generally happens when we start looking for more purpose in life is that we start to awaken to unique parts of ourselves. Sometimes these are new parts of ourselves, other times we knew they were there all along but didn’t embrace them – most often because we judged them as weird.
I judged myself for a long time as being weird because I loved reading books on personal development and wanted to pursue a much less ‘normal’ career as a life coach. But the more I tried to deny those parts of myself the worse I felt and the more watered down my life seemed to be. I was the definition of inauthentic – doing one thing but longing for something else.
By embracing all parts of yourself, the normal and the weird, you live your life in full integrity – what you say, do, and think are all in alignment.
To clarify, I use the term ‘weird’ here with no judgment. When I use the word weird, I’m talking about your uniqueness/authenticity/personal power. Call it whatever you want, but it is what makes you — YOU!
In fact, I view weird as a compliment now. It means I’m different/unique and I’d much rather be that than feeling inauthentic but seen as ‘normal’.
And we’ve all got a little weird in us. Yes, even you.
Maybe it’s the kind of books you like to read, or your fascination with squirrels, or an obsession with drawing pictures of cats. Whatever it is, it is a part of you for a reason! Denying your weirdness is denying a part of yourself but the world needs/wants to see it…otherwise there would be no reason for you to have it. I would argue that your weirdness is the best part of you because it is what makes you most interesting.
Here are some signs that you may need to embrace more of your weird:
- Are you feeling apathetic toward life?
- Are you envious of others who have embraced their weird?
- Are you bored with yourself? Do you have a longing to step it up?
If you answered yes to any of these, it’s time to dip your toes in the weird pool.
So, how can you embrace your weird?
It starts with courage. Do not wait to be 100% confident to show other sides of yourself because that will likely never happen. The confidence comes from your courage to show your true self. Confidence is a result of courage.
And you do this by taking small steps. For me, it was talking with a trusted friend about my new passions first. This was a safe person for me to talk to and who I knew would support me. As I talked with her about it more and got encouragement I felt more comfortable talking about it to others.
Who is one person you could talk to/show more of your weird self to? Just start there. The more you do it the easier it will get.
There is the element of vulnerability that goes along with this and if being vulnerable is a new thing for you, like it was for me, starting small is key.
And while some people think that being vulnerable is weakness it is quite the opposite. You are showing your strength by being who you truly are. And when you show up fully embracing all parts of you, weirdness and all, you give others permission to do the same. Deeper connection and stronger relationships are a result of vulnerability.
Once you begin to embrace more of who you really are there may be people who call you weird in the judge-y kind of way and that’s okay, you can’t please everyone.
As a recovering people pleaser here’s what I know: you have no control over what people think of you so you might as well just be happy being 100% weird you. Watered down, normal you can be way more boring – even though it might gain the approval of more people.
Remember showing your true self is not always easy – it really is a practice and you must choose it daily. I’m choosing it and I hope you will too. Your big, beautiful life depends on it.
Now go forth and let your weird shine!